Tag Archives: men

Curve balls in relationships

Curve balls in relationships

I thought I’d heard it all! This lady at the party was loudly bragging about her lover (another woman), because she realized that men weren’t ‘all that’! She claimed to have made the drastic change because women ‘get’ one another, with no explanations. “Women are expressive, not hard, like men. If am emotional, she doesn’t keep harassing me to style up and swallow it. She gets my bad days. She reaches out when am moody”. Clearly, the drink had got the better of her. Not that the ‘highly praised’ companion was any better!!! The room… Continue reading →

Fatherhood, Seriousness & Boredom – Part 2

Fatherhood, Seriousness & Boredom – Part 2

After what seemed like an eternity in hell, he spoke. He asked what my plan was, and I told him exactly what I knew he wanted to hear. He asked if I loved his daughter, I said I did one hundred percent. If I had thought facing Milkah’s Dad was the hardest part about all this, I was zombie dead wrong. That was just the beginning. I remember going to bed that night and thinking phewx! I made it through the Shark Tank. What an idiot I was! So let’s recap. I am 29, single… Continue reading →

Attacking the media’s warped definition of beauty

Attacking the media’s warped definition of beauty

I was once asked if black and white people are equal. I said yes. Then I was asked if men and women were equal. I smiled, but didn’t answer. I was then attacked with a violent argument about my indoctrination by the male gender, and how I sub-consciously saw myself as inferior. My ‘hesitation’ to see myself as equal to a man was seen as proof of the need for feminism. Never mind that my stand is men and women are not equal – they’re complementary. But then the discussion moved to other topics, specifically, hot… Continue reading →

6 signs your boyfriend/husband is gay

6 signs your boyfriend/husband is gay

Oh you should have seen her. This girl was distraught. As far as she was concerned, her life had just taken an unlikely turn! How, how could this happen to her? Her name was Mary, and for the life of me, I cannot remember how I ended up in her confidant list. Mary is (although she isn’t sure anymore) married to an amiable and intelligent bloke named Francis. They have been in this matrimonial state for 8 years now, yes, 8 years! Blessed with two kids, a playful and curious boy named Mark and a… Continue reading →

Ask Lily: What makes a good boyfriend/husband

Hey Lily, Since this is not a speech I will go straight to the question. As indicated above in the subject, my question pertains to knowing the right man. Basically uzuri wa mwanamume ni upi? Day after day we hear uzuri wa mwanamke ni urembo, tabia, ujuzi wa mapishi na utundu kitandani na kadhalika. Je uzuri wa mwanamume ni upi? I am single and will soon be searching so please help me figure out what I should be searching for. Thank you and hope to hear from you. Elizabeth

Head over heels

Head over heels

Whom are we kidding.There is a man out there for each one of us. The obvious and cliche “men are dogs” is just that ,a cliche. We make our men the way we want them to be. If you are an annoying little thing then your man will not want to be around you at all. Now back to the essence and topic of the story. I have always been one to believe in love and I know that until I am no more something inside me will always love no matter what. I am… Continue reading →

What Happened To Kenyan Men?

What Happened To Kenyan Men?

The other day, I was watching KTN’s Case files and I couldn’t help shedding tears. This particular story was about a young girl (very young I might add) who killed her baby so that she could have time to care of her ailing father. Though I don’t believe that’s the reason she did it, I feel her pain. She was clearly a child when she had that baby. In addition to being a child physically, she had the mind of a child. Am sure you are wondering why she killed the child? According to her,… Continue reading →

Our Menfolk are under attack!!!

Our Menfolk are under attack!!!

It’s horrifying how families are under attack… daily!! Its now out there for all to partake of… The headlines scream of yet another brutal battering…and this time, neither the high and mighty nor the lowly are spared. The base actions of anger expressed are well evident; high level delegate batters wife, man kills family then strangles himself, man takes poison after domestic quarrel. Yes, admittedly, some of these men simply have undealt with issues that are no excuse for meting punishment on a lady who just didn’t see where he was coming from. But, at the risk… Continue reading →

Guy Pals

Guy Pals

I’ve always loved being around men to be honest. Rough or polished I am at ease with many and of course through the years I’ve had all sorts stay, come in and out of my life. These are my personal favorites that have been very dear to me these past five years as I’ve adjusted to my single mum status…. The Divas My glittering gay pals are the funniest, most supportive and stylish men I have the pleasure of knowing. Silver tongued and witty to boot they are my protectors and I am their token… Continue reading →

Why guys should always make the first move … well … sort of

Why guys should always make the first move … well … sort of

Guys are slow. They don’t often fall in love at first sight. Lust, maybe, but not love. The average guy takes six months to really like a girl, while women fall head over heels in six minutes. Well, sometimes. The point is, a girl falls for a guy way faster than a guy falls for a girl. That’s why we have all those breakdowns in communication. Girl meets boy, boy gets girl’s number, boy takes 3 days to use number. Sometimes it’s because he’s watched the playa movies, so he wants to keep her guessing… Continue reading →