Sometimes it sucks! Being single again.
Looking for whom to hang out with. Finding a new crowd and fitting in. Some are too old for my nocturnal activities. Selectively picking topics of discussion, so no one gets offended when exes start getting bashed. Picking and dropping the kids off to those exes for visits. Avoiding eye contact when the new man with me meets the ‘old’ man who I left.
“Ever get the feeling you are settling?” my-ride-or-die chick friend, enquires.
“Who, me? After the nit-picking I’ve been through? Why would I? It has had its up-sides. It’s so interesting how this has played out”.
Venturing into the online dating space was no walk in the park. Bumping into “oldey-foggeys” on the internet highway was an eye opener; men in mid-life who are simply looking for a ‘sunset’ companion. Too feisty for that!
Suddenly, the play boys make their unceremonious entry. The “yahoo boys”. Quite by chance, I stumbled upon this phrase. Young, smooth talkers after the generous, free spirits of “Mama wa Harrier”. Resident in packs like wolves, their prey is the undiscerning but wealthy, bored businesswoman/neglected housewife who can sustain the lifestyle of a gigolo.
Brazenly driving flashy cars, smelling (and looking the part), accommodated in green leafy suburbs, you wouldn’t catch on to their haunts. Unsuspecting friends regaled me with tales of conmanship from these street wise young ‘uns. Those I could pick from a mile away. Perhaps chalk it up to age – older and wiser 🙂
That notwithstanding, the night scene has its hazards. The “mchele” drugging culture still runs through the veins of this sleeping city. Both gender have lost valuables and sometimes precious lives, in their quest for a “good time”.
Despite these mishaps, the secret is out…you must be Singly Single again!
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Christine is passionate about working with high achieving women who are not where they want to be. She teaches them how to communicate with Confidence and Clarity towards Personal Fulfillment, Living Passionately and impacting their world. An Events Management Consultant and Motivational Speaker, she is an avid reader and enjoys making friends, travelling, the theatrical arts and cookery. "Entertainia" is her middle name...