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I’ve got my oysters!

I’ve got my oysters!

“You don’t have to be anti-man to be pro-woman” ~ Jane Galvin Lewis My sisters and I grew up knowing without a shadow of doubt that the world really was our oyster and we could achieve anything that we put our minds to. In spite of our strong Kenyan heritage our parents where incredibly liberal – they talked to us about sex, AIDS and HIV, drugs and even welcomed our boyfriends. We got through our teens unscathed, intact and very expressive. At 21 I gifted my virginity to my first proper proper boyfriend. Oh the… Continue reading →

Love Knows No Tribe

Love Knows No Tribe

It is Sunday Morning. My friends and I decided to sit in for service in one church. We do this once every month then proceed to have lunch and watch a play together or go bowling. At least this way, we are able to maximize on our hang-out days. Life in Nairobi has undoubtedly shifted to the fast lane. There is barely time to breathe! Ask everyone else and they will concur that the United Nations or whoever else responsible needs to meet and give the rest of us an eighth day in the week…. Continue reading →

Talk about wrong timing

Talk about wrong timing

Christmas Eve was Friday and we as a family had decided that we would spend the night at Michelle’s house. My husband was not so up to the idea and I really had a hard time convincing him that it would do us and the kids a great deal to just bond with our friends and the season was a great way to do so. My husband had been working so hard in the year and he really deserved a well earned break and what better way but with our friends whom we had known… Continue reading →

How long should you date before you marry?

How long should you date before you marry?

I’ve known him for almost two years now, and I still find new stuff about him. We were sitting on my couch the other day, with Princess resting her head on my knees. We were watching cartoons, and suddenly, we all started singing: ♫ Mama had a chicken, Mama had a cow ♫ ♫ Daddy was proud, he didn’t care how! ♫ I stared through the rest of the song. It was anything but a loving gaze. See, I hate this cartoon. And when I say hate, I mean detest. It’s silly, tasteless, and utterly… Continue reading →

How can I tell her…or do i just shut up?

How can I tell her…or do i just shut up?

Michelle and I have been friends for ages and her wedding last year was a blast. We are always at her house for dinner with my husband and one of our friends, who has been searching all round for love but I guess cupid has other plans for her. I had been suspecting something until one day it hit me like cold water on my face that ‘our’ friend had been lying to us all along that she was single and still waiting for Mr. Right, while all along she had been with a Mr,… Continue reading →

Squished Boobs et al.

Squished Boobs et al.

When did squished boobs become a fashion statement? You know the look: beautiful formal/evening dress, tight on “all the right places” and about two sizes too small for the wearer’s double wares which get squished up and out, looking like muffin tops. I’m not the most fashion forward person in the world but I at least know that when parts of your body are literally pouring out, it isn’t sexy. Or is it? This got me thinking about other random things I’ve been wondering about like: When did it become ok to begin written sentences with the the… Continue reading →

Looking for Kenyan husbands … ?

Looking for Kenyan husbands … ?

For few weeks now, I’ve seen a banner in my facebook sidebar. It shows a pretty lady in a yellow dress, and the text says something about ministries that help women get married. I didn’t pay much attention to it, since I’m in no hurry to walk down that aisle. But then over the weekend, I heard about this event at KICC. Apparently, a Nigerian Broda was giving a sermon on how to catch a husband in six seconds or less. He preached for four hours, and promised the women up to four proposals by… Continue reading →

All in a day’s work

All in a day’s work

Musing between how to end it or make it work…surely things cannot be this hard? Not if two people are really truly interested in sorting out the important issues? What else could he do after he realized that he couldn’t love her the way she wanted to be loved? At least not now…he was hurting too much about so many issues that she couldn’t understand. Yet he wondered why it was so difficult to reach her when she had seemed so approachable in the beginning. Maybe it was just the same cycle of coming round… Continue reading →

Arranged Marriages

Arranged Marriages

I am Muslim (I love how that sounds so scary, BAM!), and never knew how funny muslim mothers could get. A few days ago, i was at a friends’ house,who had invited us, with another couple of families (yes, we do big like that) for dinner. There was my family, a French one, and another Pakistani one. At first the dinner thing appeared to be really nice and empty of any weird thoughts (wait for it..), until I got up to get more cups from the kitchen and that our host followed me to gossip… Continue reading →

Ask Lily: Married but still in love with my ex

im a married lady with two boys.this is my 7th yr in marriage but the problem is im still very much in love with my ex.he was the only man i ever dated before my husband.i cant stop thinking about him and sometimes i feel like quitting my marriage and moving in with him.im even tempted to get his child if i cant live with him.its like im obsessed with him.pls advice what to do,i feel like im loosing my mind. thanks. Abunga

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