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Curve balls in relationships

Curve balls in relationships

I thought I’d heard it all! This lady at the party was loudly bragging about her lover (another woman), because she realized that men weren’t ‘all that’! She claimed to have made the drastic change because women ‘get’ one another, with no explanations. “Women are expressive, not hard, like men. If am emotional, she doesn’t keep harassing me to style up and swallow it. She gets my bad days. She reaches out when am moody”. Clearly, the drink had got the better of her. Not that the ‘highly praised’ companion was any better!!! The room… Continue reading →

Me, me and more me! [Part 1]

Me, me and more me! [Part 1]

I have taken time over the past six months to really look at myself. To really delve deep and find out who I am, not just as a person unto myself, but as a person in relation to others. My relationship with my creator, my relationship with my family, my relationship with my co-workers, my relationships with friends and more critically my relationship with men. It has of course been brought about by the fact that I am in a sleepy town; well to be honest not really sleepy, perhaps I am the one who… Continue reading →

*newsflash* Ladies, men are choosy too

*newsflash* Ladies, men are choosy too

Wow…its been a while! I know, I know…no regular ‘work’ or ‘busyness’ excuses, children running riot underfoot, meetings in and out of town. Naah, your life’s too organized to ever really warrant explaining distance, long silences, unrelenting work schedule…right? Well, mine’s been hectic. Real hectic! Had to do my fair share of growing up..uh huh! And I found out that this multi-tasking thing, can sometimes take the FUN and excitement out of life. Juggling many balls can have a downside too. And more so for the organized, choleric types like myself. We don’t know how… Continue reading →

Dust off the Shelves

Dust off the Shelves

My father is a wise man. He doesn’t realise it but many times he says the wisest things. We were having a deep conversation about life and achieving our dreams and he told me something about myself that I needed to hear. He told me that I am multi-talented and there are so many things I am good at but I like to limit myself. I have endless possibilities to do something that will change my life. I get excited when I start doing something, but my problem is that I get easily bored and… Continue reading →

Mr Right may not be the right kind of guy

Mr Right may not be the right kind of guy

Have you ever met Mr. Right? You know, that guy who has everything you’ve ever wanted. He’s a gentleman, he’s sweet, he’s caring, he’s there for you and he’s funny. He’s basically what you have always wanted. You are so excited at finding such a wonderful man. He’s the missing part in your life. He even comes up with the name of your future kids. Months fly by and you meet his friends and some of his family. Everything is good; it’s your perfect fairy tale. Then you start thinking this is too good to… Continue reading →

A man will treat you the way you let him

A man will treat you the way you let him

“I love you. I want to marry you and only you,” I remember the first time I heard these words from him. My heart raced, my feet became weak and I could barely breathe. And therein came flashes of images of fat babies, a picket fence, a horse named Lucy along with my bestseller novels, packed on the top shelf of our home library. As fast as they came, they left, and with them the feeling that would have been love was nothing but pain. Because the man I was in love with, was saying… Continue reading →

Anchor for the soul

Anchor for the soul

I had decided to be hopeless about relationships just because one guy ruined me. I had decided to believe that all the good men were taken and the ones around are still trying to figure out what they want to be when they grow up…which for some it’s true. I had lost the point of relationships wondering how the hell I was going to trust someone again. So for months I’ve been living with a dark cloud hanging over my head. It’s funny how when you lose hope in one small thing you end up… Continue reading →

The concept of love

The concept of love

My dad has been trying to make me understand the concept of love and marriage. He keeps telling me that God chooses that perfect person for you. You fall in love deeply. A situation comes up and you break up/divorce that person. You go on dating other people and getting married but after years of marriage you divorce the person you are married to and you end up getting back together with that woman/man that you loved deeply. My dad gave me a few examples and I want to share some of them. The first… Continue reading →

The Past

The Past

The past is a construct of the mind, it blinds us, it fools us into believing it. The heart wants to live in the present,look there you’ll find your answer. Total Recall Easier said than done. Most of us want to live in the present and look forward to the future but our past keeps holding us back. We hold on to our past so much that we are scared of it happening again. I’m a culprit when it comes to holding on to my past. I recently decided to quit relationships for an indefinite time…. Continue reading →

Ask Lily: In a long distance relationship but now I feel different

Hey, I looooooooovve ”the lily review” I do, although it takes quite a while till the continuation of the last story is out…ut still, I love it. I am 24 years of age living and studying out of the country, I left home in September 2010. I had been seeing this guy since February of the same year, he insisted that he doesn’t want to let go and despite the fact that we had only been seeing each other for seven months. I decided to give it a try its now three and half years… Continue reading →

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