Many men think women are complicated. You know the old tale that a woman really does not know what she means when she says what she means. Here is classic scenario; my friend met this really nice guy at her place of work. The man in question is well educated and seems to be geared to take the world by storm seeing that he works as an aircraft engineer and he is depended upon as much as the captain in any flight he takes. With his educational qualification and job description we have his bank statement covered. He is a gentleman; opens doors, pulls chairs (This man is Kenyan and alive and as straight as an arrow)

Mr. Perfect has one downfall. Need for speed. He wants that in the first time he spends his hefty travel allowance on my darling friend she has to show her gratitude in an adult’s only kind of way which most normal women find repulsing.

I like the idea of a man in the quest to conquer mine heart, but it is the strategy that he uses that will determine his success rate. That sounded like chemistry or physics if you ask me. The thing is as much as women enjoy being pursued, they also enjoy patience in your quest.
When a woman asks that you take it slow, she means get you head out of your shorts and use what’s in your brain too, to get her to like you. Ever wonder why not so good looking men have beautiful (very beautiful) gals hanging onto their arms? Rich or otherwise? They have learnt to make up for what our Mr. Ego has left out: Patience. They have learnt to give a woman space to feel that she is in control of herself despite that she gets all giddy when you walk in and a Halleluiah jingle breaks out in her head and heart.

When the lady you are trying to get says we need to talk and drops the line that you should take it slow; in polite terms she means you need to tame the beast in you  and let the gentleman that ,many men think exist on TV come out. Read the rest of this entry →

So Lady Love has been quiet for some time but guess what I must say that it is for the better. This is because it has been a time for me to read research and practice, practice, practice.

I feel obliged to ask this question. Knowing well that sex education is important in our society following that teens are doing what has forever been our “adults only “indulgence. My question is, do fireworks go off when you have your big O? Or can we comfortably say that something just a little tingly feeling happens when you have an orgasm or just a new feeling of enthusiasm nothing big or major. Whichever category you fall in, you are perfectly normal.

As I said I have been away doing a little discovering, thanks to Google and my ob-gyn,I learnt a couple of secrets that I would really like to share with you. At this point I would like to issue a disclaimer that you must must must add a personal element or a touch of your own personality. Read the rest of this entry →

A lot has been said about finding the ideal mate and yet many of my girlfriends including me, always complain about the men or man in our lives. So what kind of homosapien are we really looking to find or even better hoping to spend eternity with?

CONFIDENT
In the book Act like a lady, think like a man, Steve Harvey says that men look for a woman who will hold his hand tighter when usher passes by all sexy and sweaty with money dropping from his pockets and still say,”baby, You are the man!!” the same way we want a man who knows that he is all that and a bag of chips but is subtle in showing it. Yes a confident man will always get the vote even if he is good-looking from far or far from good looking. So we can all agree that confidence is a priority in our list.

IN CONTROL-BUT NOT A CONTROL FREAK
My life is not your remote control. Period. Control freaks, are just that freaks. As much as being a man makes you the head of the relationship, this does not mean that the lady beside you ceases to exist. I enjoy it when my man picks out what I should wear for our special day out, but can you imagine if he chose to pick out my entire wardrobe? I must say that there is a very thin line between being in control and being a control freak because overdoing an act simply tips you over to the weirdo side we do not want to date.

UNPREDICTABLE
If you were able to know what you will be doing ten years from today or even what God has in store for you for the rest of your life, would there be any thrill about being alive? The same way I wouldn’t want to pick up my phone, with my well manicured finger on the receive button each and every hour knowing that you are going to call. Jamie Foxx sings about being unpredictable. Ladies, if your man is the opposite, please get him get him the song. I like when a man lets my mind wander as to what he is going to do next, even the next minute after hearing from him is a complete surprise. This not only keeps the flame burning but ensures that the excitement never dies. Read the rest of this entry →

The high value attributed to being a gentleman has been diminished in recent times, with the need to balance good gentlemanly conduct with respecting a woman’s equality. Many men shy away from traditional “chivalric” gestures, for fear of being labeled a misogynist. The lack of suitable role models to show us how to behave has made true gentlemen increasingly rare. Today, we will attempt to redress that balance, by showing you 10 of the most important gentlemanly gestures to use when you are on a date. These are sometimes subtle, but always significant, ways of showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. Read the full article here.

We’ll admit it: We’re nosy bitches pardon my French. But just because we start prying into your past doesn’t mean we really want to know that much about your ex. Ignorance is bliss sometimes, so check out the 10 things we don’t want to hear you say about your ex-girlfriend. Read the full article here.

Been together, like, forever? Reclaim that falling-in-love rush with fun date ideas he’ll be into. When you first fall in love, everything you share produces an adrenaline rush because it’s all brand-new. But, as you’ve no doubt figured out, that mind-blowing novelty factor does inevitably start to dissipate, and you settle into more of a routine. That’s when the love buzz is in danger of being replaced by, well, boredom. Read the full article here.

The following are the simple ways on how not to impress a lady…DISCALIMER-I GOT THIS FROM A GUY!!!! I had to convince my friends to give me tit bits on these issue and well we have 41 of those.

1) AVOIDING her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you’re paying by the hour and trying to get your money’s worth by cutting out nonessentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR. Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there’s a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you’re trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner’s face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it’s not passion, it’s avoidance. Read the rest of this entry →

Every year, we make resolutions to try to ensure that we are sexier, richer and happier than the year before. Though these resolutions are very admirable, the small print says: “individual results may vary.”

Whether you fulfill your resolutions or not is neither here nor there, the important thing is that you:
1) Understand that there may be problems you haven’t addressed until now; and,
2) Want to improve yourself and your life — in this case, your sex life.
Nothing has to be wrong in your sex life to use these ideas. In fact, you don’t even have to wait until 2010. Why not start now?
Read the full article here.

“usually when two people are together
for a long time things seem to change
it’s been said that nothing good lasts forever
but this love gets better every day
we get all excited inside,
every time that we get alone
he’s still got love in his eyes, and I still have love in my soul”

Relationships define a whole new way of living because we all know that they can be tough. To make it worse as time goes by things do not get any easier. It’s not like being a sales person where you get better just because you have been in the job longer. There are times that it’s going to be all rosy and happy and other times the periods of ennui and speed bumps of tedium along the way.

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