It is human nature or so I believe to have a difficult time saying no, we always give in to spending money or our time in activities we have no interest in. recently I spent so much money buying a book which I probably will never read, but I just couldn’t say no to the sales man. There he was with a bunch of motivational books and there I was the new kid on the block, I have only been at my new workstation one month.
The first time he came I promised I’d listen to him next time; big mistake, the guy was back a few days later and as he took out book after book, I got impatient and I knew the only way to get rid of him was to just buy the book. The guy was so generous he even promised to collect the money on pay day, smart guy I must say.
It is not easy saying no especially when we have to see the same people every day, how do you tell a friend or family that you cannot lend them money and yet you know very well they will never return even a single dime and you probably never master the courage to ask for your money back.
We live in such a manipulative society and to get what we want we have to take advantage of the inability of others to say no, this is how sales men and women have survived all through. I bet this is the same way idlers and lazy people have also managed to survive. I am trying to figure out a way to avoid buying unnecessary things without making the other person feeling rejected or ignored.
If we were all able to say no so easily, then there would be a very big problem because some sales people would never earn a dime. Our families have also mastered the art of asking for money and other small favours which most of the time the immediate answer would be no but we always end promising to try to sort them out.
The reason I am writing this is to ask for help out there from someone out there to help me out or to teach me how to say no without feeling so much guilt afterwards. I need advise or a book or something to give me guidelines on how to say NO. Someone, anyone out there I need your help or I might end up buying so many unnecessary things and giving up so much of my time to issues that do not add any value in my life. This is one of my new year resolution and I need your help making it happen.
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I am your ordinary Kenyan girl trying to build a career and balance my personal life. I love reading, writing and analyzing music, books and advertisements.