Loving you is easy ‘cause you’re beautiful

Is that true? Do we only love the beautiful? Lord that is such a harsh thing to think about but really I think in some ways I do.


It feels horrible admitting that attractiveness has a considerable ranking on my totem pole of assessment-of-people-I’d-like-to-date. But does it make it better that in general I don’t care about how people look if we’re going to be pals or if you are just going about your way?


Let me start over and perhaps explain things a little better. I have fallen in love with all types of men and had crushes on an even bizarre slew of men…and women [hehe not like thaaaat, more like wow-you-are-so-amazing-I-think-I-love-you-and-also-I-get-why-men-love-you–talk-about-vavavoom] Its totally out of my control who and why I have crush on. I love the intensity in Cajetan Boy’s eyes, Nimrod Taabu’s smile, Sean Connery’s macho/gentlemanly self…the list is endless! The people I have a crush on are very, very sexually attractive, no doubt about it. They are Alpha Males, cream-of-the-crop types who I have no ghost of a chance with!

These guys are Ken dolls but I’m no Barbie :P I just love how they look, period. I’d never want to date them because it would never work out, distance and such…ahem…Now, the people I have previously dated never followed in that vein. They were ‘ordinary’ men who I clicked with on a real level. To date I care very little about how rich a guy is, but it does help if he is well endowed *wink wink* and we must have the ability to comfortably have a conversation over the phone. [P.S I think that is the real test, especially in the early days when you’re not so sure about a guy]

So of late I’ve become very aware of the fact that I’m gravitating towards the ‘pretty’ boys. My old value system stands but more often than not I will pay keener interest to the cutest guy in the group. Damn, just putting that statement down makes me feel all kinds of shame…When did I get to be like this? And more importantly is it wrong?

It’s no secret that the world adores the beautiful, makes clear their path to wherever they please just to see them smile and remain happy. Have I too become superficial like that? Perhaps all the years of bombardment by these images and beliefs has finally affected my subconscious. Nah, who am I kidding, I’m just as bad as the rest of ‘them’.

See, I want to catch the best bee I can with my ‘honey’, is that so wrong?

I want the sparkliest star, the starring, I want the IT guy (capital letters for emphasis not short for Information Technology guys) *feels self becoming superficial-er*

See, I want to catch the best bee I can with my ‘honey’, is that so wrong?

And I know, for a fact, that I do not fall in love with just how a man looks but with how he lives, his values and his mind. And if he looks good, then that’s a bonus because at the end of the day I want to want to jump his bones you know? So yes, I will seek out the hot man but if he is hollow then he’s go to go!


The girl who is a student of life

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  • bailey

    Hahahahahahaha, I really enjoy your articles, ur so real. LOL at the part about the girls being vava-voom.

  • http://lily.co.ke/members/bakhita/ bakhita

    Thanks for reading and commenting :) glad you enjoy!

  • http://lily.co.ke/members/quill/ Mwesh

    And you shall find that man my dear. I wish you all the best.Make sure the conversation is worth it.and there is nothing wrong with catching the best bee,you deserve it anyway.

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