Last we talked, Jane & Steve were having some issues. Here’s some of what has happened since then.
Jane & Steve were actually doing better than usual. They had even made plans to go someplace that very week. It wasn’t a date and it wasn’t anything romantic but it was important to Jane and Steve agreed to take her. Steve didn’t come through for Jane within the agreed-upon time frame. However, one day he called and asked her to come over to his job because he’d found someone to fill in for him briefly while they were gone. His friend never showed up so Steve couldn’t leave. Instead, Jane spent the time hanging out with him and his friends at his job (his job is very laid back. In fact, his friends don’t work there they just come to hang out with him there).
While there, Jane seemed comfortable as did Steve; he usually seemed a bit worried or tense if Jane hang around him at work in front of his friends; an image thing I guess. Somewhere in those late afternoon hours, things got weird for Jane but she couldn’t quite put her finger on what was bugging her. It seems to this observer that it was more of a cumulative effect than anything specific. Here’s what I mean:
1. Jane got to Steve’s job past 4pm that afternoon. By the time she got there she was hungry and apparently, while they were chilling out, she made one of those “I’m starving…I haven’t eaten all day today” comments. Steve’s response? Silence. Nothing. Nada. Keep in mind they have a soda-fridge at his job. He didn’t even offer her a drink, which would’ve cost him 25bob! After a while, she went and got a snack and brought back enough for them both, which he gladly enjoyed.
I was curious (and furious) about this one. I mean, he called her and she spent her time and money to go and see him and he doesn’t even offer her a drink or food? A soda is 25bob. Chips is 50bob for goodness sakes! Isn’t it African culture to offer a guest something to eat or drink anyway?
Gentlemen, when you like a girl shouldn’t this part be obvious or am I missing something? Talk to me people
2. At a later point, he ordered a fresh juice and offered her one but Jane declined since she already had a drink. When the juice attendant stopped by later and asked if she was ready for her drink, she answered in the affirmative. Steve’s response? He apparently didn’t seem pleased, even though he had offered to get her the juice at the same time he got his. *sigh* “he’s an idiot”, is my opinion.
3. Later still, Steve got a bit arrogant, for example, he made comments about another woman’s butt and boobs in the presence of Jane! His reasoning? “We’re guys. That’s what we do”. In his defense (and I’m desperately looking for a silver lining here), he apparently preferred Jane’s boobs to the other girl’s. Still, it was weird for her that he would behave like that. Later when she asked him if her top was too revealing (because her boobs are for his eyes only, I presume), he said the top was fine and anyway it was ok if his friends saw a little coz it would make them jealous and wish she was theirs and not his!
Hmmmm….I’m not a guy so I won’t guess why on earth he would say any of this. Maybe my male readers would care to enlighten us girls?
To cut this long sordid tale short(er), that night Jane had a nagging question which she couldn’t answer: “what has he added to your life in the two months you’ve known him?”
A few days later, she broke up with him. Via text message!
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