Comments on: Ask Lily: Should I leave him

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 07:20:56 +0000

I read this somewhere, maybe it will help you too……

Since it bears repeating, let’s review a few of the traits that will tell you unequivocally that a guy is into you:

His actions match his words. He doesn’t just say he loves you or wants to be with you because he thinks that’s what you want to hear; it’s obvious by the way he behaves.

He introduces you to his friends and family within a reasonable amount of time. This indicates that he’s increasingly serious about making you part of his life.

His behavior is consistent. He isn’t into you one week and then distant the next. His affection for you is something you can rely on.

He tries to please you. Because he’s genuinely interested in you as well as your thoughts and feelings, he acts on that. He knows you love the color yellow, for example, so he shows up with a bouquet of yellow flowers.

You don’t feel like you’re doing all the work, and you never find yourself making excuses for him. As psychologist Geraldine Merola Barton puts it, “The truth is, we always find time for the things we value. If he’s into you, he’ll call, period… no matter what.”

By: baby

baby — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 06:22:33 +0000

Never trust a mun that ur doubting, Any man who finds the right patner never wastes time. I have been a victim of two r/ships and it works that way. When i found mr right I thought that i wasnt ready but he made me know that it was the right time.U may be suprised that by the time u complete your education, he will have made a choice with another woman. Move on with ua life

By: ashmaina

ashmaina — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 22:11:24 +0000

i believe deep down you know what you have to do. if you are prepared to watch him cheat on you over and over again,then by all means stay with him because trust me,he will not change. dont degrade yourself,you can do better,further he seems to think you are desperate for him and does not value you at all,otherwise he would not have cheated four times!!!wow…my dear,for all women out there,leave this man and dont look back.

By: Africangel

Africangel — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:40:04 +0000

Its clear that he is immature and is hoping that you will take care of him while he goes about his business with other chilles. Please think carefully, and make the best decision for yourself because only you know how much you can take before he completely takes your joy away three years from now.Is he working? If yes why is he still at home? Your heart has already been broken by the messages please do not let him take your joy away as well.

By: ciira

ciira — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:00:15 +0000

Why on earth are you going through his messages? You are behaving like his mother. If you dont trust him call it quits. Dont stoop to that, does it make you feel good?

By: Liz

Liz — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:09:13 +0000

Its not just about saying that he loves you. Thats easy.. Its about showing that he loves you,and respects you. And you don’t wanna spend the rest of your life with a man you always suspect… 4times,is one too many.

By: Emily

Emily — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:21:41 +0000

No man is trustworthy if u cant stomach him look for mwingine

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:20:24 +0000

moral of the story … if u dnt want 2 get hurt, dont stick ua nose in another persons private messages … ignorance is bliss ma people

By: beryl

beryl — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:19:42 +0000

just think about it…if I had posed the same question to you how would you respond…..simple there is your answer

By: Kari

Kari — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 10:30:12 +0000

every being has a right to happiness evn the bible says so and yu r denying urself one………move on he will realize the loss and if yu two r meant to be nature will work its miracle.

By: Priscilla

Priscilla — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 10:29:34 +0000

always trust your instinct you will know if you are on the right path or not.

By: Judy

Judy — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 08:46:42 +0000

let him go if yu two were meant to be, maybe yua paths will cross again but long distance is not a good option unless yu have a plan of yu being together soon. Been there believe yu me

By: Rozz

Rozz — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 07:54:08 +0000

Mayb distance meks hm desparate,bt if she rily luvz him n he luvz her too then the two shuld work thngz out

By: Bernice

Bernice — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 07:37:43 +0000

Been there, n the best thin to do is to move on with ua life. No man is worth heartache. So any fish in the ocean

By: kristi

kristi — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 07:35:29 +0000

Out of sight out of mynd my dear.move on wit ur lyf

By: quill

quill — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 06:58:48 +0000

Chrisy,

First of all I think a thirty year old man living with his siblings is a comfort zone for him.I mean this is a man who should have grown up and moved out and is already leaving in his own house.My honest opinion is this is a man who is immature of some sort and does not know what his priorities are.Plus again considering that distance is an issue,he takes this time to play around with other women.Something done repetitively on the same circumstance more often than not your gut is always right.The fact that the four times you have seen this and forgave him,the has gotten used to the fact that you will always forgive him so he continues to do the same thing knowing that there is nothing more you can do,except get mad and forgive him.Look at it this way,this is a man who is grown(in the literal term),living at home and has no direction and you have to wait another 2 years to get married to a man who is confessing undying love to other women.Let alone that,what does he do that you don’t know?Think about it Chrisy and ask yourself if this is the man you want to spend the next 35 years of your life with.Or if for four years he has changed that much what more don’t you know?
Good luck though Chrisy,I wish you all the best

By: jess

jess — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 06:56:17 +0000

one thing,if a man finds a ms right, he dont waste anytime!yes alot of excuses could mean something, he is still observing things or looking…it does not however mean he dont love you.It is possible that he may also have a genuine reason for his delays and that he dont keep u in the dark but puts it straight to you, and you can also tell his genuity in it. It is good to give each other a benefit of doubt, and time but a thorough observation could also give you all the answers that you want,especially in an eye to eye talk.

So,he may be genuine and that time is all he needs,which is also good for you to clear school and for you to see things as they are for yourself, so jus observe and u could be there b4 u know it.