Women – Our Own Worst Enemies

venus symbol female women girlsSo girls, let’s have a heart to heart.

Why do we hate each other, spite each other and bring each other down?

Why do we use bad words on each other…the B word, the WH word, the S word?

We are all the same, we go through the same stuff, we have the same emotional make-up, we look pretty much the same inside…so shouldn’t we stick together?

Girl 1: “That B stole my boyfriend!”

Girl 2: “How could she? She just looks like something the cat dragged in anyway.”

Girl 1: “I gave her a piece of my mind though. I told her he will always be my man and I am going to get him back!”

Girl 2: “You go girl, let her know what she is messing with. That guy deserves better and that’s you.”

Hello?? Anything wrong with that conversation?? The MAN cheated on you. It’s more his fault than hers!

“I deserved that promotion more than she did. She probably slept her way to the top.”

“What the hell is that she’s wearing? Somebody call the fashion police!”

“That woman’s house needs to be on How Clean Is Your House. Have you seen it? It’s so filthy! She has kids and works two jobs but please…that’s no excuse. I can do better.”

“No wonder her husband left her. Look at how she dresses. And she sure has put on the pounds.”

And on and on and on.

Why do we do this to each other?

Women are the only ones who can best understand each other. They are the only ones who can understand the pain a woman goes through in any situation because they are made the same emotionally.

Only  a woman can tell a fellow woman where to get he best hairdos, the cheapest clothes and the best house helps.

Only a fellow woman will know that dark-colored clothes make you look slimmer than lighter ones. That getting cheated on makes you feel, more than anything else, less of a  woman. That having kids and raising them is a full-time job, leave alone cleaning and maintaining a home. That sometimes all you need is a good cry without anyone saying anything but just being there while you bawl your eyes out (men, take notes).

That sometimes women need to be appreciated…no…all the time.

And the last thing we need is to destroy each other.

Look at the men.

They are always supporting each other.

Listen to a conversation involving men taking about some guy who was caught cheating with someone’s wife. You won’t even hear them berate the guy, they will look for every excuse to support the guy, moreover will even congratulate him on his conquest. And that’s when the guy is on the wrong.

But look at us women. Even  when one of us does something right, jealousy takes over and we annihilate her actions and drag her reputation through the mud.

Are we so insecure in ourselves?

If anything, let’s take a lesson from the guys. Let’s band together.

Speak well of every woman you meet.

Compliment each other.

Be there for each other.

United we will be a force to reckon with. And we all know we have something extremely special to give to the world right? Something uniquely ours.

Let’s do it. Let’s change the world. Together.

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  • http://lily.co.ke/members/crystal/ Crystal

    You make many good points, but it’s hard to be nice to a girl when so many others are being mean to you. It’s a beat-em-join-em thing. I guess that’s why most girls only really trust their boys…

  • http://lily.co.ke/members/wacumureithi/ Wacu

    i agree with Crystal.when someone is an absolute bitch in your face the only reaction is to bitch back and gossip period!! i can do it better if she can mentality i suppose. but the she started it is my greatest defence.

  • Angie

    I agree with you both. Being a nice girl will take you places…but being a bitch keeps your path clear as you get there…..mean as it may sound I have come to this realization after some of the things other girls have done….

  • bailey

    Ladies, I am actually saddened coz it’s this mindset that will keep us divided and at war with each other. I know it’s hard to repay evil with good…
    But maybe we can start by being nice to those who are nice to us and not being mean just because they are female.
    I know many ladies treat a guy better than they would a lady just because she’s female, not necessarily because of anything she’s done wrong.

  • Juddy

    I totally agree with Bailey. When you hit back with bitchness that makes you a bitch…..there’s no difference between you and the person you’re berating!! A wrong never made another wrong right.!! Evaluate friendships – keep those that matter and trash those that don’t without insults. A hard thing to do, but you’ll not loose your dignity and self-worth :-)

  • Leyan

    Finally someone has written something that really addressees my concerns.. What is it with us women???Be it in shopping places, schools, places of work-we are cold to each other!! I would like to change the situation but before then, I will continue to always let a guy serve me first where possible.

  • liliian shiulu

    The information I read about women was a true observation. We women we need to correct our mistake by appreciating each other as a sister to you.

  • lillian andeka

    Its true that women we are our own enemies in fact in maters to do with boy friends i would argue my fellow girls to take it easy when you come to know that your boy is having another girl coz may be between you and her she was the first one so don blame anyone but move on with life

  • suzy

    it true Ladies let be what we were created to be ,Beings with big heart and in so doing we do do not only bring blessing to us but to what is our .a persons looses nothing by being good on the contrary gains.

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