Overthinking 104

crystal dingsSay something.”


Something else.”

Ok. Something else.


What do you want me to say?

Argh!! Look, I thought long and hard before telling you that. With any one else I would have stayed far away, but I don’t want to lose my best friend. Besides, you’re always saying you want the truth!”

That stings. Truth often does. But he’s right, I do want the truth, that’s what I always say. I just didn’t expect it to hurt so much. So thanks for being honest about it, I guess.

It’s not that there’s anything wrong with you. You’re perfect. It’s just that … well … I don’t find you attractive in that sense.”


Well … you’re opinionated. And honest.”


I’m a man. I have an ego. I want a girl who can lie a little.”

Okay, now I’m laughing.

I’m serious!! An opinionated honest female is great as a friend. For company, and you know, research.”


You’re fun to be around, and I love that you always have my back. But you’re just not a … there’s no mystery with you, nothing to conquer, nothing to figure out or keep me on my toes. I like that in a girl. With you … you’re like my gay guy friend. With nicer legs.”


“Plus most men want a girl who can flatter them. Granted there are one or two who don’t mind a from-the-hip shooter, but 9 out of 10 men want a girl who will tell him he’s just the one, even when they both know he’s not. Hence the mistress, who doesn’t see him enough to note his faults, is loved more.”

Makes sense I guess.

Crys you are special, and you are strong, and some men like that. You will find the one that loves you for you. But for **coitus** sake don’t tell him you have a crush on him. He will probably see it in your eyes and hear it in your voice but don’t say it out loud. Let him chase you a little.”

I poutingly cede. Here I was thinking how I am a refreshing change from the idiot women who make a man suffer before they get some, when apparently my direct approach is far less desirable. Sigh.

Jaimie can read me pretty well, and he notes my change in mood. I’m starting to sink into myself, and he knows that means trouble. He leans over and gives me a hug.

I’m not saying you have to change who you are. I’m just saying don’t ask a boy out or tell him that you like him. Let him figure it out, but don’t say it. A boy will value you more if he has to sweat to get you.”


Facts of life hun, break at your own peril. Most girls can do it naturally, but you have to learn. Just like you can fix your plumbing naturally, while most girls have to learn.”

And with that I am smiling again. How I love this boy.

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Crystal Ading' is a professional author, editor, rock lover and mother. Her work is available through threeceebee.com.