To begin with, it is important to scrutinize yourself, what do you consider a real relationship to be? You have to get the picture what your needs and desires are from the other person, and what you are prepared to give them. This way, you capable of knowing early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other individual feels the same of course both sides count for a healthy relationship.
Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you like about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is vanishing, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This dilemma can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.
Everybody is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. Nevertheless, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid recurrent arguments. Look for things like whether or not it is important for the both of you to see each other everyday, or have sex often. While seeing each other on a day after day basis seems great and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time. Or if sex is on the top of your list, but is not on your partners, you might want to consider that, unless you do not mind waiting or taking care of yourself once in a while depending on how long you have to wait!
Patience is one of the main keys to a hale and hearty relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is agreeable to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthful step to take because it shows your partner that they are not permitted to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your mate some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, except if your partner never wants to talk about matters with you (which would mean you require counseling or abandon the relationship).
Honesty is also at the top of everyone’s list when it comes to what people yearn for out of a relationship. A person wishes to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They want to know that they can at least rely on their adoring partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, meaning we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing that what you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they ought to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner has realized this, you can then seriously consider a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.
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David is an expert on relationship advice. He authors the blog datenromance.blogspot.com.