I have observed with interest and bemusement (is that a word?) the fanaticism that exists whenever the English Premier League, Champions League or whichever other league from the numerous number of soccer leagues that exist is on. The men we thought were hard core and unfeeling become mushy, passionate and expressive creatures. “Love”, an alien word in their vocabulary before, becomes an everyday utterance whenever they talk about their beloved “Arsenal” or “Man-U”. That man who couldn’t be bothered when your friend got a baby and you “oooh-ed” and “aaah-ed” at the baby photos she… Continue reading →
I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years. But recently there has been some distance and silence and I don’t understand what could be the cause. Some time back I chose another lady over her while we were still dating. I was young and naive I a must admit and could not see what I had. So we went apart for almost an year before I realized I had made a mistake and decided to reconcile with her. After a battle with herself she accept me back and thought all was behind us. Last year… Continue reading →
Oh you should have seen her. This girl was distraught. As far as she was concerned, her life had just taken an unlikely turn! How, how could this happen to her? Her name was Mary, and for the life of me, I cannot remember how I ended up in her confidant list. Mary is (although she isn’t sure anymore) married to an amiable and intelligent bloke named Francis. They have been in this matrimonial state for 8 years now, yes, 8 years! Blessed with two kids, a playful and curious boy named Mark and a… Continue reading →
Hey Lily, Since this is not a speech I will go straight to the question. As indicated above in the subject, my question pertains to knowing the right man. Basically uzuri wa mwanamume ni upi? Day after day we hear uzuri wa mwanamke ni urembo, tabia, ujuzi wa mapishi na utundu kitandani na kadhalika. Je uzuri wa mwanamume ni upi? I am single and will soon be searching so please help me figure out what I should be searching for. Thank you and hope to hear from you. Elizabeth
I never told you about Tim’s Wedding day. Tim, for those of you who have short memories happens to be my best friend, and the proud husband to a girl with who if he screwed up for even one second I would be first in line knocking on her door. Her name is Christine. It’s been just over 1 year now since the day they exchanged Vows at a solemn event in a 100 year old chapel at Nairobi’s Lavington area. A beautiful ceremony, yet simple and elegant like everything else Tim does. To my… Continue reading →
You are an eighties baby. You have gone to so many weddings and baby showers that you mutter words like ‘fascinators’ and ‘fuchsia’ in your sleep. It is at one of these weddings that you will meet a former high school mate you have not seen since the Just a Band’s Makemende video went viral will often give you one of those “cheek hugs”(Because she has not fully mastered the pretentious hug which, if done extremely well ,should be a mid-air hug, or something). Your high school mate will smile and ask; Where have you… Continue reading →
The atmosphere seems to be carrying some heavy expectancy…rushed…frantic. I don’t know what it is about this last quarter of the year (October to December) but it bears its own signature of the entire year. There’s a transition of sorts for someone (family friend) who has been in a stable relationship for the past 5 years. No children came of their union (which he deeply regrets). His wife is also handicapped but couldn’t see what she had to offer him after they discovered her uterus was damaged. He holds his chin in his hands as… Continue reading →
I am a mother of three and going through my first pregnancy. My ex husband and I were not able to have children biologically so we adopted the most gorgeous children; 2 boys and 1 girl. Like any family, we’ve had our challenges and concerns for our children, even now when we are not together. Ultimately, we are committed to our children and their well being. Last year a girlfriend set me up on a blind date with a man I decided didn’t suit me in any way. Lucky for me he was persistent. Two… Continue reading →
![Her Imaginary Boyfriend [Part 2]](http://lily.co.ke/files/2012/09/all_hail_the_queen-180x180.jpg "Her Imaginary Boyfriend [Part 2]")
Her mother had warned her about men who would cheat on her, and of how much it would hurt. Then, she had thought: But I am not you, mother. Her mother had warned her of the men she would love but would not love her back and she thought: I am not you. Her mother had said nothing of the men who, for a few hours every week, made her feel like a queen and treated her like a leper the rest of the month. She did not prepare her for her own weakness. Her… Continue reading →
![Her Imaginary Boyfriend [Part 1]](http://lily.co.ke/files/2012/09/new-sms-message-180x180.jpg "Her Imaginary Boyfriend [Part 1]")
She has, as have millions of women before her, suffered from loneliness, to the point which any sort of attention from a man would suffice, even if it was a once in a month text that said: ‘You are so lost’. From a man who was probably just horny and drunk and to which she was likely to reply ‘It is you who is lost’ or a similarly mundane response in the hope of starting a stimulating, romantically charged conversation. There is, of course, the occasional date that tells her he has ‘Deep feelings for… Continue reading →